Storytelling vs Reality

Storytelling is considered an art. An art which teaches children morals, keeps traditions alive and is something, if done well, people find engaging.
But storytelling can become a bane if we are not careful of the stories we tell ourselves – of others, of our own situation or of our misery. If left unchecked, negative stories can cause damage to ourselves as we get blinded by the conversations we have with ourselves rather than acknowledge the reality around us.

How can we switch the negative stories we tell ourselves?

1) Read “Loving What Is” by Bryon Katie. A powerful book on changing our own mindset rather than attempting to change others. The basic premise of the book is that our mind is “our business”. The minds of others is “their business”. And we have no business getting into someone else’s business. She describes 4 powerful questions which can help people change their perspective of their situation.

2) Create diversity in your conversations. Speak to at least one new person a week. Seek out those who are not part of your regular circle of friends and acquaintances. Be curious about their perspectives and thoughts on issues. Listen to connect, not judge. They may be able to offer you an alternative perspective to your story.

3) Trust yourself that you can live without negative stories. Feel comfortable with the discomfort of not having stories to commiserate with. Having negative stories can become so ingrained in us that it becomes our reality. A reality which we hold dearly to – even though it may be causing us pain. Let go and trust yourself that you don’t need them.

So what stories are you telling to yourself?